Primacy Effect

From Wikipedia:

"The primacy effect, in psychology and sociology, is a cognitive bias that results from disproportionate salience of initial stimuli or observations. For example, a subject who reads a sufficiently long list of words is more likely to remember words toward the beginning than words in the middle.

The phenomenon is said to be due to the fact that the short-term memory at the beginning of whatever sequence of events is being presented, is far less "crowded" and that since there are far fewer items being processed in the brain at the time when presented than later, there is more time for rehearsal of the stimuli which can cause them to be "transferred" to the long-term memory for longer storage."

In ENGLISH, and how it applies to social situations, is the FIRST IMPRESSION. When we first meet a person, or even before that if they are set up in some fashion, we filter all the information following the initial impression BASED ON THAT. So, in other words, if you come off as an asshole right off the bat with someone, everything you do from that point forward will be viewed through that lens. You could be the nicest person in the world, but since you were having a bad day when you ran into this other person for the first time, you are forever an asshole no matter what. Let's try to avoid bad first impressions, they last a long long time. One simple way to remedy the bad first impression is to apologize, to say "I am so embarrassed by what I did." Three things happen. First, you admit that you were wrong. Second, you admit you're human...and people like it when you make a mistake and show humility by admitting wrong. Lastly, you show that you're honest. To make a great first impression, SMILE! Simple. Using positive language helps as well. NO matter how bad your day or life is, just remember the be in the best of spirits when you meet someone for the first time. It lasts long after you go your separate ways.

TF

Get The Life You Want

I have been reading Get The Life You Want by Richard Bandler, the father of NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) and I wanted to share the first of many exercises that he includes in the book.  This one is simple yet very powerful the more you practice it.  I will be posting more of them as the days pass, but for now, enjoy this.

HOW TO FEEL WONDERFUL EXERCISE

1)   Think of a time you felt wonderful.

2) Close your eyes and imagine that time in vivid detail.

See the image clearly, hear the sounds loudly, remember

the feelings as they were then.

3) Imagine yourself stepping into that experience and

imagine being in that memory as if it's happening

now. See what you'd see, hear what you'd hear, feel

how good you'd feel. Make the colors stronger and

brighter if that helps. Notice how you were breathing

back then, and breathe that way now.

4) Pay attention to the wonderful feeling in your body

and get a sense of where the feeling starts, where it

goes, and the direction it moves in. Imagine taking

control over the feeling and spinning it faster and

faster and stronger and stronger through your body as

the feelings increase.

5) Think of a time in the future where you could use

these good feelings. Spin these feelings throughout

your body as you think about the future and the things

you are doing over the next few weeks. Don't be too

surprised if you find yourself feeling really good for

absolutely no reason.

Techniques for enlightenment also banish depression and anxiety ,,, Brain waves.

It is estimated that 1/3 of Americans experience depression and anxiety at some point in their life. I will share my personal findings of the cause and the cure.

The good news is the path to enlightenment does banish the baser emotions of fear. So how can we cultivate and feel on every level the power of the purest Love? There are many many paths ,,, all with some merit. I will tell you my thoughts and techniques that have worked for me.

State Brain Wave Frequency Associated With
Beta 14 – 21 cycles per second (cps) and higher Waking State, the five senses. Perception of Time and Space
Alpha 7 – 14 cps Light sleep, meditation, intuition. No Time & Space limitation.
Theta 4 – 7 cps Deeper Sleep, Meditation.
Delta 0 – 4 cps Deep Sleep. You are unconscious at Delta.

The trick is to lower your brain wave frequency while remaining awake. It used to take years of meditation to train your brain to reach these lower brain waves. Now with head phones and a cd your brain can be trained very quickly ,,, often in the first session you can feel the difference. Time seems irrelevant and visions flow. This accompanied with control of internal dialog is enlightenment!

Until you find the brain sync cd that serves you the best try this simple method. Feel your eyes are sleepy ,,, you feel relaxed like you are falling asleep. Imagine a metronome clicking ,,, clicking slower ,,, and then slower yet.

I use my own metaphor. Beta is the lizard mind. Fight or flight are only the basic choices. Stuck in Beta; irritable, too aware of every second, trapped there long enough there is depression.

When you drop your brain wave to alpha there is the mammal mind. You have multiple choices and it is impossible to be depressed.

Below is email sent to a friend that describes what I an sharing with you now.

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The right frequency is more than a name ,,, it is a metaphor ,,, it is the passport to the control of your emotions, dreams, present peace, and material abundance.

There are four basic brain waves-> 1) delta - deep sleep, body regenerates. 2) theta - dream sleep / awake visions 3) alpha - calm awake, peaceful awareness, work along happily, time seems to move ahead smoothly. 4) beta - anxious, time does not move smoothly, anger, fear, defensive thinking.

Being able to induce/control any/all of these brain waves at will *especially Alpha/Theta ; along with the positive potential of internal dialog(the voice that talks in your thoughts) will give you mastery for your eternal present happiness. FILTER YOUR THOUGHTS accept only the Best.
,,, make every thought from the beta mind very small ,,, small and dim.

For each of these archetypes I will use a name to represent the brain wave for the sake of poetic license.

Delta-*deep sleep ,,, *peaceful oblivion Theta-*the mystic *connection to infinite Alpha-*mammal brain *man or woman of peace Beta-*lizard brain *the warrior *the beast

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As you gather gratitude ,,, feel ,,, think you are almost sleepy ( feel it in your eyes ). This will slow your mind ,,, no effort is required ,,, just let the brain slow ,,, the mystic will enlighten the mammal ,,, the lizard mind slows, The warrior freezes

Remember the mammal is the lord over the lizard ,,, as this brings a plethora of new options for creation. The lizard only gives you two choices RUN or FIGHT. A woman (or man) of peace contemplates many choices as she embraces the peace that is always with her.

Paramount is love, as you enjoy each moment as it comes.



Print and read daily ,,, as your subconscious naturally will give you the ability to lower your brain waves at will.

Rightfrequency

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Limiting Beliefs

Beliefs are just that.  They are not real.  You can choose to believe anything you want actually.  Imagine all of the great things that you could possibly want out of life, and now attribute the beliefs that are embedded in your mind to why you can't do those things.  Something so small as a belief can prevent you from so much in life.  On the same token, a positive belief can get you anything that you want.  Everything starts in your mind and branches out from there.   The ONLY thing that we have the ability to 100% control as a human being is our thoughts.  Take advantage of that.  It is our most powerful and vital asset since reality comes from our thoughts.  Don't be the one who looks in the mirror 20 years from now, only to see vast opportunities pass you by simply because you believed that you weren't good enough/strong enough/happy enough to do something.  Start believing in yourself today.

YOU ARE NOT YOUR MIND

TF

Bliss Lyrics

I'm being lazy today, so here are the lyrics for the song "Bliss" by Muse.  We should all look to each other for this every day.
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Everything about you is how I'd wanna be,
Your freedom comes naturally

Everything about you resonates happiness,
Now i wont settle for less.

Give me all the peace and joy in your mind.

Everything about you pains my envying,
Your soul can't hate anything.

Everything about you is so easy to love,
They're watching you from above.

Give me all the peace and joy in your mind.

The Prophet - Notes

A friend lent me her cherished copy of The Prophet yesterday, so I spent the night reading it.  I don't know how I have lived this long and have never even heard of this book, but I am so thankful to have met her and have her introduce me to it.  This is a must buy for me and something I will go back to time and time again.  The book is separated into chapters based around a subject and my notes are just a few lines from each one that stuck out at me.  You can get this book for as low as $0.75 cents right now, which is a steal.

Anyway, here are some selected quotes.

Enjoy!

TF
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The Prophet – Kahill Gibran

Love

When you love you should not say, “God is in my heart,” but rather, “I am in the heard of God.”

Marriage

You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.

Giving

It is well to give when asked, but it is better to give unasked, through understanding.

Your blood and my blood is naught but the sap that feeds the tree of heaven.

Work

For to be idle is to become a stranger unto the seasons, and to step out of life’s procession, that marches in majesty and proud submission towards the infinite.

Work is love made visible.

Joy/Sorrow

Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.

The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.

Houses

Verily the lust for comfort murders the passion of the soul, and then walks grinning in the funeral.

That which is boundless in you abides in the mansion of the sky, whose door is the morning mist, and whose windows are the songs and the silences of night.

Clothes

Forget not that modesty is for a shield against the eye of the unclean.

And though you seek in garments the freedom of privacy you may find in them a harness and a chain.

Buying/Selling

For the master spirit of the earth shall not sleep peacefully upon the wind till the needs of the lease of you are satisfied.

Much in you is still man, and much in you is not yet man.

Crime

You cannot separate the just from the unjust and the good from the wicked.  For they stand together before the face of the sun even as the black thread and the white are woven together.

The corner stone of the temple is not higher than the lowest stone in its foundation.

Laws

You can muffle the drum, and you can loosen the strings of the lyre, but who shall command the skylark not to sing?

Freedom

You can only be free when even the desire of seeking freedom becomes a harness to you, and when you cease to speak of freedom as a goal and a fulfillment.

Reason/Passion

Your soul is oftentimes a battlefield, upon which your reason and judgment wage war against your passion and your appetite.

Your reason and your passion are the rudder and he sails of your seafaring soul.

Reason, ruling alone, is a force confining; and passion, unattended, is a flame that burns to its own destruction.

Pain

Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.

Much of your pain is self-chosen.

Teaching

No man can reveal to you aught by that which already lies half asleep in the dawning of your knowledge.

If he is indeed wise he does not bid you entry the house of his wisdom, but rather leads you to the threshold of your own mind.

For the vision of one man lends not its wings to another man.

Friendship

Your friend is your needs answered.

When you part from your friend, you grieve not; For that which you love most in him may be clearer in his absence, as the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain.

Let there be no purpose in friendship save the deepening of the spirit.

Talking

You talk when you cease to be at peace with your thoughts.

There are those who have the truth within them, but they tell it not in words.

Time

Yesterday is but today’s memory and tomorrow is but today’s dream.

Is not time as love is, undivided and paceless?

Good/Evil

For what is evil but good tortured by its own hunger and thirst.

You are good in countless ways, and you are not evil when you are not good.  You are only loitering and sluggard.

Prayer

When you pray you rise to meet in the air those who are praying at that very hour, and whom save in prayer you may not meet.

God listens not to your words save when He Himself utters them through your lips.

Pleasure

Pleasure is a freedom-song, but it is not freedom.

Regret is the beclouding of the mind and not its chastisement.

Oftentimes in denying yourself pleasure you do but store the desire in the recesses of your being.

Your body is the harp of your soul.

Beauty

Beauty is life when life unveils her holy face.

Beauty is eternity gazing at itself in the mirror.  But you are eternity and you are the mirror.

Religion

He who wears his morality but as his best garment is better naked.

He who defines his conduct by ethics imprisons his songbird in a cage.

If you would know God be not therefore a solver of riddles.

Death

For life and death are one, even as the river and the sea are one.

Trust the dreams, for in them is hidden the gate of eternity.

What is it to cease breathing, but to free the breath from its restless tides, that it may rise and expand and seek God unencumbered.

Uncategorized

We wanders, ever seeking the lonelier way, begin no day where we have ended another day and no sunrise finds us where sunset left us.

To measure you by your smallest deed is to reckon the power of ocean by the frailty of its foam.

Your thoughts and my words are waves from a sealed memory that keeps records of our yesterdays.

Surely there is no greater gift to a man than that which turns all his aims into parching lips and all life into a fountain.

A little while, a moment of rest upon the wind, and another woman shall bear me.

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A Poem

“I bargained with Life for a penny,
And Life would pay no more,
However I begged at evening
When I counted my scanty store.

“For Life is a just employer,
He gives you what you ask,
But once you have set the wages,
Why, you must bear the task.

“I worked for a menial’s hire
Only to learn, dismayed,
That any wage I had asked of Life,
Life would have willingly paid.”

I saw this poem in "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill.

Enjoy!

TF

Offering value

One of the most beautiful things you can do for another person, as well as yourself, is to offer value. Value is anything that can help a person survive and has characteristics that would help the offspring survive as well as their children. It is also anything that gives you good emotions. To make someone else feel good with a little comment or touch of your hand is remembered by them long after the moment has passed. It makes them smile and remember how you made them feel. We are all stuck in this life together, and sometimes life seems monotonous or bland or just plain meaningless. Do yourself a favor: Offer people value so that life will be more meaningful.

TF

I saw this at work today

Simplicity is complicated?

Yes ,,, simple is complicated and complicated is simple when we accept Metaphors to explain the vastly complicated spirit world. Simple comparisons have always been used even by the earliest spiritual masters. There is a value in every intent to connect to heaven or higher realms. These higher vibrational realms can be thought of as a Divine Vibration. The higher the vibration, the closer to friendly paradises. The lower the vibration the closer to baser emotions, and even lower levels of hell like creation.

So simply we start to intend to raise our own vibration slowly (or very fast. Ha ha). The higher the vibration we master, the more easily the complicated ciphering becomes simple. To quote a metaphor "the lion lays beside the lamb".

So here's simple ,,, Your most important goal in life is to enjoy each moment as it arrives!

Put your thoughts ONLY on things that you want. Example "I don't want to be fat". NO ,,, you want to be thin and healthy!

Be assured that doubt is the destroyer and faith is the creator. Go with the Faith that you are achieving a higher spiritual vibration by your intention alone. The higher the vibration, the more easily your understanding will flow ,,, personal revelations and enlightening answers start to be simple as you have an acquired new understanding.

Rightfrequency

Wecome to the Garden of Enlightened Dreams.

We are here to learn, grow, and help each other unravel life's mysteries. This is a free forum and we welcome your enlightened expression, comments, and questions. Explore with us the infinite possibilities for healing, growth, and epiphanies.

We reach out to one and all ,,, plant a seed in our garden and gratefully share in the harvest.

Rightfrequency

POEM

My Declaration of Self-Esteem

"I Am Me"
Virginia Satir

In all the world there is no-one else exactly like me.

Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine because I alone chose it.

I own everything about me; my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or to myself - I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes, because I own all of me.

I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me and other aspects that I do not know, but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and for ways to find out more about me.

However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say and do - I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.

I own me, and therefore I can engineer me - I am me and I am okay.

You can download a PDF version HERE:

TF

Ego vs. Self Esteem

I was listening to Tyler Durden last night and he had an interesting thought that I want to share. He was talking about the difference between Ego and Self Esteem. He suggests that they are opposites, that Ego is something that separates us from each other while Self Esteem brings us together. Ego, according to Tyler, is a construct created by our minds when our Self Esteem gets injured at a young age. It is there to help us logically fit into the world and answer questions that we don't have the answers to. Questions such as who we are, where we are, and where we are going. Self Esteem, on the other hand, is something we are born with. Happiness is a default state of mind! Look at a young child who goes around doing whatever he/she wants to do without fear of judgment. They just do whatever makes them happy. The Ego has not yet been formed within them. What I would suggest is to break the Ego down and discard it, along with anything else that you no longer need to function. This will take a lot of work, patience, and practice, but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel in my imagination when I finally rid myself of it. All it does is divide who you think you are with everyone else around you, for better or for worse. Go with the flow of the world, not against it. We are all in this together.

TF

Follow up: In order to get rid of the ego, you HAVE to accept the wound. You HAVE to accept yourself, both the good and the bad. Understand this: The more personal the wound, the more UNIVERSAL the wound. We all go through the same things. Accept what has happened to you and move on.

Welcome

If you can read this, then congratulations! This is the beginning of something special as long as we put forth the effort. I came to this idea because I have had some friends recently who have had a hard time dealing with life, and I feel that our combined knowledge and energy can reach out to not only them, but to the rest of the world as well. We each radiate a strong, positive, divine light that people are naturally drawn to and are embellished with when they are around us. Let's iron out the little details and communicate with each other for a week or so, then we can start inviting people. Good Luck and God Bless!

Transcendental Fire